Milla 366: 365/366
To my daughter, what I want you to know…
There are so many things about this world I want to explain to you. Many will have to wait, but a few I can share here.
Like any mother of a young girl I am terrified for you. Feminism has helped bring about so many changes, but there are still so so many that need to be made.
You will grow up feeling like your place in life is to submit, to be quiet, to do exactly what you’re told at all times without question, to be amicable and polite and giving of yourself at all times without question. Question that.
You will likely get less recognition for achieving the same tasks as peers that are male. Fight that.
You deserve to be respected and cherished in all of your relationships. Never underestimate that.
You will feel compelled to be sexy, to be beautiful, to let your body belong to someone else before you’re ready. Don’t accept that. You are beautiful and you hold a great deal more power than you know by just being you, by just being a woman. Hold onto that.
You have the ability to grow life inside of you and give birth. That is powerful, you are strong, you are capable. You are in charge of your body and how you experience this, not the doctors or midwives or other mothers – if you choose to have children, you will know your body and your baby best, trust that.
You have the capacity to have fierce, unconditional love. To carry the burden of others, to carry the burden of the earth’s tears, to share in other’s joys and pains. Your capacity is deeper than the ocean and sometimes that depth wells up – sometimes you won’t even know why the tears come, but it’s your giant heart darling, feeling the pain of so many in a lost world.
You will be told you need to lose your sweetness, your kindness, your generosity, your innocence to be taken seriously. Don’t believe that.
Above all, always remember that you are more than enough as you are. Never try to prove that to anyone, just know it.
And if you ever forget, come to me and I’ll tell you. I’ll whisper in your ear the thousand ways you have made my life so much brighter just for being in it, and the thousands of ways you make this earth brighter just by being you.